Standing up again and again.
Isn’t resilience a characteristic that some people have and some people don’t? Aren’t there some people better at facing challenges and bounce back than others?
Resilience is that ineffable quality that allows some people to be knocked down by life and come back stronger than ever. Rather than letting failure overcome them and drain their resolve, they find a way to rise from the ashes. Psychologists have identified some of the factors that make someone resilient, among them a positive attitude, optimism, the ability to regulate emotions, and the ability to see failure as a form of helpful feedback. Even after misfortune, resilient people are blessed with such an outlook that they are able to change course and soldier on. – https://www.psychologytoday.com/basics/resilience
If resilience in only a quality that some people innately have, then what about the rest of us? The fact that all humans are to encounter stress on a day to day basis, must mean that we are all capable of bouncing back from stress, adversity, and hardship.
What man actually needs is not some tension-less state but rather the driving and struggling for some goal worthy of him. – Victor Frankl
Take your muscles for example. If you have not lifted weights in your life, then you will not be able to lift 400 lbs on your first try, maybe not even 100 lbs. So you must train your muscles, by starting with smaller weights and working your way up to heavier ones. In the same sense resilience can be developed and strengthened. How can we do this? Not by going to out find stressful situations and forcing yourself to face hardships. But by strengthening areas of your life that make you the healthiest you can be not only in physicality, but also mentally and spiritually. Being balanced in these areas will increase your ability to find resilience in the face of hardship. Ultimately to be resilient is to be able to move through adversity and find joy and happiness despite of the challenge and stress.
The Resilient is about choosing to be healthy in all areas of your life.
Your actions reveal not what you want, but what you choose. – Shane Parrish
Physical Health
- Your body is ultimately made of what you put into it, what you do with it, and how much rest you give it. Yes, your diet, exercise, and sleep? — it all matters.
Mental health
- The mind is how you perceive the world. Your character influences the perspective you take on every situation. Yes, you can change your character by changing your habits — it all matters.
Spiritual Health
- The connection you have with God and those around you, is what makes your feel alive. You may not believe in God or be religious, but you cannot deny that humans are social beings. The relationships we have with friends, family, pets, and even strangers gives each of us the support we need and in turn we strive to support those around us. — it all matters.
Balancing all areas of life
For more on living a balanced life, please visit and tools to help guide you in discerning areas in which you can improve on visit http://drricardowhyte.com
Dr. Ricardo Whyte is an Adolescent and Adult psychiatrist as well as an Addictions Psychiatrist who has developed a tool called the “Rut Buster.” This tool, found in his website, will help you examine yourself in 7 essential areas of wholeness and will allow you to objectively evaluate what areas you can improve on. Dr. Whyte has videos and resources that will continue to help you pursue your goals and help you to be more equipped to face life challenges. He is my mentor and has been a huge influence on helping me become more resilient by understanding that I must chose to live a balanced life. My hope is that you will be inspired by his experiences and learn to develop yourself to be who you want to be.